Sunday, August 9, 2015

Like Parent, Like Child

2 Samuel 18:5-9, 15, 31-33
The king ordered Joab and Abishai and Ittai, saying, "Deal gently for my sake with the young man Absalom." And all the people heard when the king gave orders to all the commanders concerning Absalom.
So the army went out into the field against Israel; and the battle was fought in the forest of Ephraim.
The men of Israel were defeated there by the servants of David, and the slaughter there was great on that day, twenty thousand men.
The battle spread over the face of all the country; and the forest claimed more victims that day than the sword.
Absalom happened to meet the servants of David. Absalom was riding on his mule, and the mule went under the thick branches of a great oak. His head caught fast in the oak, and he was left hanging between heaven and earth, while the mule that was under him went on.

And ten young men, Joab's armor-bearers, surrounded Absalom and struck him, and killed him.

Then the Cushite came; and the Cushite said, "Good tidings for my lord the king! For the LORD has vindicated you this day, delivering you from the power of all who rose up against you."
The king said to the Cushite, "Is it well with the young man Absalom?" The Cushite answered, "May the enemies of my lord the king, and all who rise up to do you harm, be like that young man."
The king was deeply moved, and went up to the chamber over the gate, and wept; and as he went, he said, "O my son Absalom, my son, my son Absalom! Would I had died instead of you, O Absalom, my son, my son!"


Ephesians 4:25-5:2
So then, putting away falsehood, let all of us speak the truth to our neighbors, for we are members of one another.
Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not make room for the devil.
Thieves must give up stealing; rather let them labor and work honestly with their own hands, so as to have something to share with the needy.
Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear.
And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with which you were marked with a seal for the day of redemption.
Put away from you all bitterness and wrath and anger and wrangling and slander, together with all malice, and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you.

Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children, and live in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.


John 6:35, 41-51
Jesus said to them, "I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never be hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.

Then the Jews began to complain about him because he said, "I am the bread that came down from heaven."
They were saying, "Is not this Jesus, the son of Joseph, whose father and mother we know? How can he now say, 'I have come down from heaven'?"
Jesus answered them, "Do not complain among yourselves.
No one can come to me unless drawn by the Father who sent me; and I will raise that person up on the last day.
It is written in the prophets, 'And they shall all be taught by God.' Everyone who has heard and learned from the Father comes to me.
Not that anyone has seen the Father except the one who is from God; he has seen the Father.
Very truly, I tell you, whoever believes has eternal life.

I am the bread of life.
Your ancestors ate the manna in the wilderness, and they died.
This is the bread that comes down from heaven, so that one may eat of it and not die.
I am the living bread that came down from heaven. Whoever eats of this bread will live forever; and the bread that I will give for the life of the world is my flesh."

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You know those sayings they always say about parents and children:
·      You sure can tell whose kid you are!
·      The apple didn’t fall very far from the tree (or the nut, or the acorn)
·      Chip off the old block
·      (just saw this yesterday: Don’t judge people by their relatives. J)
·      ……. (what else?)
·      And of course, like father, like son, or like mother, like daughter (but you hardly ever hear “like mother, like son, or vice versa, do you?)

People who knew my mom often tell me how much I remind them of her. And when they say that, I always wonder, and sometimes I ask them, do they mean that I look a lot like her, or that I act a lot like her? Because I do have my mom’s dark, curly hair, and other facial characteristics that could be considered similar. But mom was short, and tiny, and feisty. Really feisty. I would say she was way more feisty than me. And impatient! Very impatient. To my mind, my behavior is more like my dad than my mom. He was more quiet, and patient, and gentle than her. Of course, that could just be the way I see myself; others may see me in a very different light than that!
But we carry certain traits from our parents. Some may be genetic, or hereditary, or behavioral. They may come from our biological parents, but if we were raised by one parent, or by adoptive parents, or foster parents, we may also have developed characteristics that are unique to them. And of course, the circumstances of our lives also play a large part in shaping who we are, who we become.

In our passage today from Paul’s letter to the Ephesians, he tells them, and us as well, to “be imitators of God – as beloved children, and live in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us.” Paul is reminding us that we have another parent that we take after – as God’s children, there are characteristics of God that we are called to model, to imitate. And those characteristics are summed up by telling us to live in love, sacrificial love, the way Christ loved us so much that he gave himself up for us.

Our Old Testament and New Testament passages are great representations of how to be (and how not to be) imitators of God, or chips off the old block, as we might say.


We continue to learn about David and his children in our reading today from Second Samuel. Last week’s reading came from chapter 11, and this week’s is from chapter 18. And I have to tell you, a LOT happens between those two chapters. Talk about dysfunctional family dynamics, you’ve got them here. It reads a bit like a reality TV show.

One of the great theologians of our present time, Frederick Buechner, provides a good summary of what has happened since we left off on our story of David. He writes this:
“ALMOST FROM THE START, Absalom had a number of strikes against him. For one thing, he was much too handsome for his own good, and his special pride was such a magnificent head of hair that once a year when he had it trimmed, the trimmings alone tipped the scales at three and a half pounds. For another thing, his father, King David, was always either spoiling him rotten or reading him the riot act. This did not promote stability of character. He murdered his lecherous brother Amnon for fooling around with their sister, Tamar, and when the old war-horse Joab wouldn't help him patch things up with David afterward, he set fire to Joab’s hay field. All Israel found this kind of derring-do irresistible, of course, and when he eventually led a revolt against his father, a lot of them joined up.
On the eve of the crucial battle, David was a wreck. If he was afraid he might lose his throne, he was even more afraid he might lose Absalom. The boy was the thorn in his flesh, but he was also the apple of his eye, and before the fighting started, he told the chiefs of staff till they were sick of hearing it that, if Absalom fell into their clutches, they must promise to go easy on him for his father's sake. Remembering what had happened to his hay field, old Joab kept his fingers crossed, and when he found Absalom caught in the branches of an oak tree by his beautiful hair, he ran him through without blinking an eye. When they broke the news to David, it broke his heart, just as simple as that, and he cried out in words that have echoed down the centuries ever since. "0 my son Absalom, my son, my son;' he said. "Would I had died instead of you, 0 Absalom, my son, my son" (2 Samuel 18:33)."  (Originally published in Peculiar Treasures) 

He meant it, of course. If he could have done the boy's dying for him, he would have done it. If he could have paid the price for the boy's betrayal of him, he would have paid it. If he could have given his own life to make the boy alive again, he would have given it. But even a king can't do things like that. As later history was to prove, it takes a God. “

So here we have a father who desperately loves his son, but who cannot take on for himself the sins of his son. He may be king, and he may be a man after God’s own heart, but even a king cannot keep death from those whom he loves. Only a God can do that.

And so with that we turn to the gospel reading. Jesus says, “I am the bread of life.” This is the first of his “ I AM” statements, and since the Jews know that “I AM” is a name attributed to God, this makes them a bit twitchy. Who is this Jesus? We know his father; he’s a carpenter from Galilee. Where does this guy get off saying he came down from heaven as bread? In the Old Testament bread and wine are used as descriptions for wisdom, meaning they need to be taken in and processed to be effectively used.

Jesus uses their questions, as usual, as a teachable moment. He connects the hearing and learning that comes from the Father with eating the bread that is eternal, and believing, and living forever. He connects those who come to him with those who are drawn to him by the Father. The Son is teaching as the Father teaches. The Son is saving as the Father saves. The Son is not merely providing the bread of heaven; he IS the bread of heaven. He is what sustains us above and beyond any meal imaginable.

God has saved us, forgiven us, sustained us, in the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. And this is why Paul says to us,
“Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children, and live in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” He says we do that by
·      putting away falsehood
·      speaking truth to our neighbors
·      acknowledge our anger but do not let it cause us to sin
·      do not make room for the devil
·      labor and work honestly, so we have something to share with the needy (not to hoard for ourselves)
·      speak what is useful for building up – words that give grace to those who hear.
·      put away all bitterness and wrath and anger and wrangling and slander and malice – and be kind, tenderhearted, forgiving to one another – as God in Christ has forgiven you.
o  [if only David and Amnon and Absalom could have chosen these behaviors, could have modeled themselves after their heavenly parent]
·      do not grieve the Holy Spirit, with which you have been sealed for redemption.
You are beloved children of God – you and me and all of us. So like parent, like child, be imitators of God, and live in love. And by doing this, we contribute to a world where conflicts do not have to be approached in the way David and Absalom did, where the results do not have to be so tragic. Where weapons will be transformed into farming implements. Where lions will lie down with lambs, and be led by little children. It may sound Pollyanna-ish, but it really ought to sound Christlike – and because of that, it is exactly what we ought to be about the business of doing. If we accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior, if we believe his words and trust his authority over us, if we accept Holy Scripture as an authoritative witness to Jesus Christ and to God’s work in the world, by the power of the Holy Spirit, then we must read this seriously and take it in as food, as bread, as divine wisdom, as our way of life. Our parent God has called us to do so, and our brother Christ has shown us the way. And we have the opportunity to show the way in the way we live our lives, and nourish others with our daily living, every moment of every day.
In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen.



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